Three ways to help your children without detrimentally affecting your retirement

I’m relatively new to parenthood – today was my son’s 2nd birthday. My wife and I watched with anticipation as he madly opened his birthday present. The look of sheer delight on his face when he saw a box of Duplo warmed our hearts. I now get how for years on end you want to give to your children. I can see my future now: new bike for his 4th birthday, whatever the latest fad is for his 10th birthday, a car for his 18th and quite possibly a house deposit for his 25th. When does a parent’s generosity stop? When does that generosity become detrimental to our own finances? It’s a very hard line to draw in the sand.

It is also a question I get from a lot of my retired clients. I have the hard job of saying “Yes, you have wealth to share with your children but it is going to detrimentally impact your retirement plans.” That is a hard conversation to have with loving parents.

A good example is a couple aged 71 and 69 who have two children that are now in their early thirties and do not own a home. The children have managed to save around $30,000 each towards a home deposit. With banks now wanting up to a 20% deposit for first home buyers, each child is looking like they need to save another $50,000 each. This couple are comfortable in their retirement. They have $560,000 in their superannuation fund and $150,000 in personal shares. This provides an income of around $65,000 per annum. At this rate, their capital should last them until the ages of approximately 92 and 90.

The children are asking for $50,000 each to help with a house deposit and mum and dad have funds to help. But giving away that $100,000 now will see their capital disappear at age 89 and 87. So, the opportunity cost is that the couple run out of capital 3-4 years earlier.

If the parents were to fully provide the deposits for their children’s homes, that will see their capital diminish as early as ages 87 and 85. We should also consider that by their mid-eighties, the couple may need to enter aged care. How will aged care be funded if they run out of capital in their mid-eighties? Their home may need to be sold.

We can see the impact on parents for providing a lump sum of cash to their children and how it does affect their superannuation fund and personal wealth. It does have an impact on their ability to fund their own retirement and aged care costs.

There are three ways you can help your children and not have a detrimental impact on your own retirement plans:

  • Rather than giving cash, you may be able to use the equity in your home to be guarantor for a loan your children take out with a bank to buy a home. In many instances this may remove the need for your children to pay lenders mortgage insurance. This can save up to 1-2% of the home purchase cost.
  • Loan money to your children rather than give it. If you do have some surplus cash earning below 3% you can make an arrangement with your children where they pay you interest at a rate above what you would earn from the bank and below what they would pay to a bank. This is nice little win-win scenario.
  • Accept your children may do things differently to how you started out. What does this mean? It may actually be more efficient for your children to continue renting where they live and purchase an investment property. The tax deductions and rent can be less than them paying a principle and interest home loan. Thus, they can balance living where the want to live for lifestyle whilst still having an exposure to property as an investment.


ASSUMPTIONS FOR CASH FLOW– Starting ages 71 & 69 projecting life expectancy to 90- Inflation = 2.50%- Post-retirement rate of return on assets = 5% (Moderately conservative risk allocation of assets)- Annual retirement income of $65,000 pa indexed- Starting superannuation balance of $560,000- Starting personal assets of $150,000- Eligibility for Commonwealth Aged Pension included in forecast- Assumed homeowners

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